Ask any parent and they will tell you that toddler tantrums are terrible. According to the experts, most toddler tantrums are expressions of the desire to be independent or to act some newly developed desire. Basically, they want to exercise their own will and they will demonstrate this desire by turning on the waterworks until they get what they want.
How do I deal with the Terrible Two's? Well here are on tips:
1. Establishing parental expectations will teach your child the difference between acceptable and unacceptable behavior.
2. Avoid just telling them NO or STOP.
3. Offer them Choices instead. For example, “Do you want to put on your socks or do you want mommy to do it for you?” and “Would like to eat this now or eat it later?” Giving your toddler options will allow him or her to feel like they are not being forced into doing things they don’t like.
4. Give them Warnings. Toddlers sometimes cry because they’re surprised by things they consider unpleasant.
5. Whenever toddlers experience the consequences of their actions, they are able to internalize the moral reasoning behind such actions.
6. Try and communicate with them. Toddlers crave to be heard and understood, particularly when they’re acting out. The best way to go about this is to talk to your toddler and to hold them. This will show them that you care about their problems, or at the very least that you’re close by.
7. Hold them and talk to them. Physical contact usually softens toddlers, and helps them to feel okay. If they’re experiencing discomfort, a few hugs can help ease their pain.
8. Sometimes, toddlers will cry or engage in bad behavior for bad reasons. When this happens, don’t be afraid to give them time out.
Lastly, managing toddler tantrums is never easy, but parents all over the world deal with it daily. Be patient, it will get better over time as your child grows up. We hope these tips help when your child has their next meltdown.